The 1-Minute Trick that Can Change Your Life and Help You Overcome Laziness

If I had to choose one thing about myself that I could change, it would easily be my propensity to be naturally lazy. I am one of those people that either gives 100% effort, or I give none, so being motivated to do just about anything can become a chore in itself. Keeping this mentality in mind, I started looking for ways to up my motivation and squash my procrastination in a manner that would make me a productive machine. That turned out to be much easier conceived than accomplished.

That is until I stumbled upon a very simple Japanese principle: Kaizen.

The Principles of Kaizen
At first glance, Kaizen seems so simple. In fact, at first glance, I thought “there is no way this can work.” Kaizen is built on the idea of accomplishing a task through a series of very small steps. We’ve all come to believe that accomplishing big goals requires big changes and hard work, when in reality, it requires a series of very small changes to accomplish one big goal. According to Kaizen.com, “One of the most notable features of kaizen is that big results come from many small changes accumulated over time.” The end result of thinking that big changes require big steps is that we get burnt out and overwhelmed. Kaizen is all about moving forward in an interval that shows instant, tangible results as a form of motivation.
Read: The father sees a clean room and a made bed. Seconds later he finds a letter and is devastated.

Example:
Let’s say you have a huge pile of laundry to do. You look at the pile of laundry and think “this will take a day to sort, wash, dry, and fold.” The task seems huge on the surface. So, what you do is set a timer on your phone for 1 minute and start sorting. The idea is: in your brain a minute seems minuscule. You do the task for a minute, and at the end you have an actual, tangible, recordable result. “Wow, this might not be so tough, after all. Look at what I did in just one minute, ” you think. So you do another minute. More results. Gradually, if you move your timer up to 3 to 4-minute bursts, you are creating a quantitative value for your work, and making baby steps towards getting the task done. Try it out with any task you have to do. Set a small amount of time on a timer, work at the task, and step back at the end and see what you’ve done. There is something magical about making progress measurable. The key to Kaizen is being constantly conscious of what it is that you are accomplishing.
Read: The father sees a clean room and a made bed. Seconds later he finds a letter and is devastated.

The Kaizen Institute:
The principles of Kaizen were developed by Masaaki Imai in his book Kaizen: The Key to Japan’s Competitive Success in 1986. Since the introduction of that book, Kaizen has become recognized worldwide as an important foundation of many company’s long-term competitive strategies. Companies from all over the world using the consulting services of the Kaizen Institue to run their businesses more efficiently and with greater success. For 30 years the principles of Kaizen have been improving the workflows of some of the largest corporation in the world, so just imagine what these basic principles can do for you and that pile of laundry.

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15 Quotes from Doctors that the Cancer Treatment Industry Doesn’t Want You to Read

Earlier this week, when the World Health Organization released a report stating that processed foods, like bacon and hot dogs, are probably carcinogenic, the internet lost its collective mind. Meanwhile, there have been HUNDREDS of reports about different studies proving that things like cannabis oil can actually cure cancer. Apparently people only care how you develop cancer, not how you treat it. The attitude from the pharmaceutical is even worse – they don’t want to cure it at all. Why would they? The cancer treatment industry is jus that – a business. No doctor has ever made money off of a patient without an ailment. I know, I know – I sound jaded. I have no reason to be jaded, I’ve never had cancer myself, nor has anyone in my family. But what I see is an industry built around feeding on people who do or have. Don’t take my word for it, though. Take it from some of the most prominent doctors in the world:
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“But nobody today can say that one does not know what cancer and its prime cause be. On the contrary, there is no disease whose prime cause is better known, so that today ignorance is no longer an excuse that one cannot do more about prevention. That prevention of cancer will come there is no doubt, for man wishes to survive. But how long prevention will be avoided depends on how long the prophets of agnosticism will succeed in inhibiting the application of scientific knowledge in the cancer field. In the meantime, millions of men must die of cancer unnecessarily.”
– Dr. Otto Warburg, Medical Nobel Prize winner

“Everyone should know that the ‘war on cancer’ is largely a fraud and that the National Cancer Institute and the American Cancer Society are derelict in their duties to the people who support them.”
– Dr. Linus Pauling, two-time winner of the Nobel Prize

“…90% of prescription drugs only work 30% to 50% of the time.”
-Allen Roses, M.D., Senior Vice President, GlaxoSmithKline

“To the cancer establishment, a cancer patient is a profit center. The actual clinical and scientific evidence does not support the claims of the cancer industry. Conventional cancer treatments are in place as the law of the land because they pay, not heal, the best. Decades of the politics-of-cancer-as-usual have kept you from knowing this, and will continue to do so unless you wake up to their reality.”
– John Diamond, M.D.
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“There have been many cancer cures, and all have been ruthlessly and systematically suppressed with a Gestapo-like thoroughness by the cancer establishment. The cancer establishment is the not-too-shadowy association of the American Cancer Society, the leading cancer hospitals, the National Cancer Institute, and the FDA. The shadowy part is the fact that these respected institutions are very much dominated by members and friends of members of the pharmaceutical industry, which profits so incredibly much from our profession-wide obsession with chemotherapy.”
-Robert C. Atkins, M.D., Author, “Dr. Atkins New Diet Revolution” and founder, The Atkins Center in New York. (died very mysteriously BTW)

“Chemotherapy is an incredibly lucrative business for doctors, hospitals, and pharmaceutical companies. The medical establishment wants everyone to follow the same exact protocol. They don’t want to see the chemotherapy industry go under, and that’s the number one obstacle to any progress in oncology.”
– Glen Warner, M.D.
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“You wouldn’t believe how many FDA officials or relatives or acquaintances of FDA officials come to see me as patients in Hanover. You wouldn’t believe this, or directors of the AMA, or ACA, or the presidents of orthodox cancer institutes.”
– Hans Nieper, M.D., alternative medicine practitioner

“When Dr. Hamer was arrested in 1997 for having given three people medical advice without a medical license, the police confiscated his patients’ files and had them analyzed. Subsequently, one public prosecutor was forced to admit during the trial that, after five years, 6,000 out of 6,500 patients with mostly ‘terminal cancer’ were still alive. With conventional treatment, the figures are generally just the reverse.”
– Dr. Caroline Markolin, Ph.D.

“As a chemist trained to interpret data, it is incomprehensible to me that physicians can ignore the clear evidence that chemotherapy does much, much more harm than good.”
– Alan Nixon, Ph.D., Past President of the American Chemical Society

“2 to 4% of cancers respond to chemotherapy.”
– Ralph Moss, Ph.D
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“We have a multi-billion dollar industry that is killing people, right and left, just for financial gain. Their idea of research is to see whether two doses of this poison is better than three doses of that poison.”
– Glen Warner, M.D., Oncologist

“The FDA protects the big drug companies, and is subsequently rewarded, and using the government’s police powers, they attack those who threaten the big drug companies. The thing that bugs me is that the people think the FDA is protecting them. It isn’t. What the FDA is doing, and what the public thinks it is doing are as different as night and day.”
– Dr. Herbert Ley, former Commissioner of the F.D.A.

“In point of fact, fluoride causes more human cancer deaths, and causes it faster, than any other chemical.”
– Dean Burke, Former Chief Chemist Emeritus, U.S. National Cancer Institute
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“Most cancer patients in this country die of chemotherapy. Chemotherapy does not eliminate breast, colon or lung cancers. This fact has been documented for over a decade. Yet doctors still use chemotherapy for these tumors. Women with breast cancer are likely to die faster with chemo than without it.”
– Alan Levin, M.D.

“When a patient is found to have a tumor, the only thing the doctor discusses with that patient is what he intends to do about the tumor. If a patient with a tumor is receiving radiation or chemotherapy, the only question that is asked is, ‘How is the tumor doing’? No one ever asks how the patient is doing. In my medical training, I remember well seeing patients who were getting radiation and/or chemotherapy. The tumor would get smaller and smaller, but the patient would be getting sicker and sicker. At autopsy, we would hear, ‘Isn’t that marvelous! The tumor is gone!’ Yes, it was, but so was the patient. How many millions of times are we going to have to repeat these scenarios before we realize that we are treating the wrong thing?”
– Dr. Philip Bin
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8 of the Most Expensive Typos in History

Not all typos are created equally. I mean, there are those autocorrect mishaps that we have all sent to parents, coworkers, or loved ones that can make for a pretty awkward situation. Then there are the typos, say in an article that thousands of people are going to read, that make you look ignorant – no matter how smart you might be. If I sounded bitter in that last sentence, I assure you I was not. Awkwardness and personal grief aside, there have been some typos in history that have been truly DISASTEROUS on a huge financial scale.
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1. New Mexico Car Dealership
Back in 2007, a Roswell, New Mexico car dealership came up with a brilliant idea to mail out “scratch-off tickets” that had a grand prize potential of a $1000 dollars. An Atlanta-based company called Force Events Direct Marketing printed out 50,000 the tickets and mailed them out. There was only one problem: instead of ONE of the tickets being a $1000 dollar winner – THEY ALL WERE. Since the dealership didn’t have $50 million dollars to shell out for all of the winning tickets, they offered a $5 Walmart gift card instead.
Total Damage: $250,000 (potentially)

2. New York MTA
The New Your Transit Authority had a little mishap where they had to recall over 160,00 maps that listed the new rates for their pay-per-ride cards. The increase in price was only 50 cents ($4.50 to $5.00), but the new maps listed the minimum as $4.50. Doesn’t seem like a big deal right? It was, Considering it would take 100,00 rides to recoup that money.
Total Loss: $500,000

3. Ebay Mishap
There was an eBay seller who was auctioning off an antique case of 150-year Allsopp’s Artic Ale. When he made the listing, he misspelled the name of the beer (Allsop’s instead of Allsopp’s). The seller still managed to sell the case of old beer for $304 dollars to a buyer who knew exactly what they were actually buying. That seller then turned around and sold THE SAME CASE OF BEER for $503,300 dollars…
Total Loss: $502,996
Read: 15 of the Best Quotes from one of History’s Most Incredible Women, Maya Angelou

4. New Your City Department of Education
Bookkeeping is tough enough as it is before you mix in the added perils of computers and software. In 2006, William Thompson – the city’s comptroller, admitted to making a typo while entering in the city’s expenses. The typo (one extra letter) lead to the city doubling the Department of Education’s transportation spending.
Total Damage: $1.4 Million

5. Sonoma California Yellow Pages
Back when Banner Travel Services was in business, they decided to place an ad in the yellow pages to advertise their travel agency. The ad that was placed listed a specialty in EROTIC destinations, as opposed to EXOTIC destinations. Although the ad attracted some attention, it wasn’t the kind of attention Banner Travel Services was looking for. The Yellow Pages offered to waive their $230.00 dollar monthly fee, but Banner went ahead and sued them for $10 Million.
Total Damage: $10,000,230
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6. NASA
In 1962, NASA built the first interplanetary probe, the Mariner 1. It’s mission was to do a fly-by of Venus and send back data about our closest neighbor planet, but because of a missing hyphen in the codes – it blew up seconds after being launched. Arthur C. Clarke, the author of 2001: A Space Odyssey, called it “the most expensive hyphen in history.”
Total Damage: $80 Million

7. Juan Pablo Davila
Back in 1994, online stock trading was very new, and apparently very full of peril. Juan Pablo Davila, who was employed by a government-owned Chilean copper company, accidently bought a whole bunch of stock that he was trying to sell. Once he realized his mistake, he went into a trading frenzy to try and cover his losses. Well, ol’ Pablo didn’t exactly recoup those loses. By the end of the day he had lost the company/country of Chile $175 Million Dollars. He was immediately fired, and the country tried to sue Merill Lynch, stating that Davila made unauthorized trades. Lynch settled for $25 million.
Total Loss: $150 Million
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8. Mizuho Securities
in 2005, The Japanese securities firm added a new company to their portfolio: a recruiting firm J-Com Co. The price for the stock was 610,000 yen for 1 share. The next year, somehow the company managed to list 610,000 shares for 1 yen a piece, instead of 610,000 yen PER 1 share. No amount of pleading with the Tokyo Stock Exchange could undo the error, and Mizuho was stuck footing the bill.
Total Damage: $340 Million

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Simple Tips to be a More Affectionate Partner

Affection is a physical expression of feelings which is a must in a relationship. Being affectionate with your partner can help both of you gain a deeper level of intimacy in your relationship. Research has proven that higher rates of physical affection are directly correlated to relationship satisfaction. Being more affectionate in your relationship tends to make you both more comfortable with one another, as well as bring you closer together. Here are few tips to be a more affectionate partner.

Physical Affection:
Physical affection is a must for a healthy relationship because it releases feel-good hormones. According to a recent study, being affectionate “has a beneficial influence on multiple stress-sensitive systems.”

Lowers Blood Pressure:
Physical affection, like hugs from partners, helps in lowering blood pressure for women. So far, the study has not conducted for men.

Lowers Stress:
Physical affection is said to lower stress levels by lowering the amount of the stress hormone, cortisol.

Ways To Show Physical Affection:
* Back-rubs
* Massages
* Caressing
* Stroking
* Cuddling
* Holding
* Hugging
* Holding hands
* Kissing on the lips
* Kissing on the face

Making eye contact while you are cuddling or holding hands can increase oxytocin hormone levels.

Hold Hands:
Holding hands can create a sense of intimacy and bond between a couple. When you go for a walk with your partner hold his/her hands. It is easy and cements your bond and it’s the easiest and effective way to exhibit your affection. Never hesitate to hold their hands in public it is romantic and is also a great sign of affection.
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Schedule Time For Cuddling:
In today’s busy world, it might be difficult to spend a lot of quality time with your partner, but you could put it on your schedule. After returning from work you can watch TV together, which is a good time for a simple snuggle-fest, being warm and loving to your partner can make them feel a genuine affection towards you.
Read: Mark Twain’s Top 9 Tips for Living a Kick-Ass Life

Random Kisses:
Random kisses are always a good thing, kiss your partner when it’s least expected. Kiss like you mean it. The back of the neck is a great place for these unexpected kiss. This increases the affection that your partner has for you, this makes them realize how much you love them.
Read: 5 Tips for Emotionally Sensitive People

Communicate:
A healthy communication is a must for maintaining a healthy relationship. If you want more affection from your partner, maintain a healthy communication. Increase the verbal affection by texting them with quotes like ‘I love you or I miss you’ when they are away. When you send them a text, add an ‘I Love You’ at the end. Make your partner understand how much you love them by means of your words, this will increase the affection to a greater extent. Verbal affection is much more important when you are in a long distance relationship.
Read: 7 Tips To Keep Your Life in Balance

Compliments:
Compliments are the keys that unlock affection which strengthens a relationship. Tell them how beautiful they are, tell them you are happy to have them. Never take them for granted because a simple compliment will help them realize how far a little affection can go. Compliment them every day, it will make them feel more fulfilled.
Read: 7 Unconventional Tips to Build your Self-Confidence

Give Greetings:
Give good greetings when they return from work greet them with a smile in your face, never ignore them, when they do something for you say thank you, express your appreciation in a few sentences. It’s an easy way to make your relationship more affectionate.

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Research: Sex Could Improve Brain Function

While doing research for the article about why you should consider masturbating less frequently because of the negative impacts it has on your brain, I found something pretty interesting. Apparently as bad as chronic masturbation can be for your brain, having sex can be great for your brain. At first, I thought, “well an orgasm is an orgasm,” but research is showing an altogether different story.

Sex is Great for Your Brain

Everyone knows that one of the major ways to improve brain function is to use it. There have been countless studies into the positive effects of brain games and challenges simply based on the theory that you brain is like a muscle: the more you use it the stronger it is. At Rutgers University, Dr. Barry Komisauruk found that, in women, orgasms increased blood flow to as many as 30 different parts of the brain. Increased blood flow means more oxygen and nutrients to the brain. More oxygen and nutrients make for a healthier brain. According to Dr. Komisauruk, “Mental exercises increase brain activity but only in relatively localized regions. Orgasm activates the whole.”Having read this, I wondered to myself, “what other brain benefits could sex have?”

Sex Can Make You Smarter

According to research done at the University of Maryland, regular sexual activity stimulates a process known as neurogenesis – the brain’s process of creating new neurons. In that same study, researchers found that as a result of the neurogenesis stimulated memory function. Another study done by scientists at the Konkuk University in Seoul concluded that regular sexual activity reversed the memory-depleting effects of chronic stress. The study says, “Sexual interaction could be helpful for buffering adult hippocampal neurogenesis and recognition memory function against the suppressive actions of chronic stress.”

Sex Versus Masturbation

So again, the question is raised, “what constitutes as sexual activity?” One could assume that sexual activity, even by yourself, would have the same results. A study from the University of Texas disagrees. According to their research, specifically into people who had pornography addictions, found that excessive porn viewing(like any other addiction)can result in permanent “anatomical and pathological” changes to the brain. Their findings were supported by a study done on 28 healthy individuals who were asked to remember neutral, negative of pornographic images. According to Matthias Brand, head of the cognitive psychology department at the University of Duisburg-Essen, Germany, “Results revealed worse working memory performance in the pornographic picture condition.”
Read: ‘Telepathy Is Possible’ Says Most Complex Brain-To-Brain Study Ever Conducted

One of the things I talked about in the masturbation article was the release of a hormone called prolactin after intercourse. Prolactin is important because it helps our brains offset the release of dopamine that can desensitize our brains. Dr. John Grohol explains, “The hormone prolactin makes us feel satiated by countering the effect of dopamine, which is released during sexual arousal.” Too much dopamine in our brains can lead to a drug addiction-like response, no matter what the activity is. So, the fact that our brains release up to 400% as much prolactin when having sex over masturbation keeps our brains from developing that dopamine desensitization.
Sources: National Center for Biotechnology Information, Science Direct,

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10 Interesting Facts about the State of Alaska

When it comes to our states, It seems like there is a little bit of a popularity contest going on. California, New York, Texas – they are all heavy hitters when it comes to boasting and bragging about being the best state in the Union. But then there is our buddy, Alaska. A gentle giant of sorts, hanging out way up there by himself. I’m here to tell you: Alaska has a lot to offer. Here are 10 interesting things you might not know about Alaska:
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1. Alaska is the largest state
So this is one fact that you may have known, but don’t tell any Texan that. Texas is widely thought to be the biggest state, but actually, Alaska is more than twice its size. It is the largest state in the United States by far and would actually stretch coast-to-coast.

2. Parts of Alaska experience sun for 24 hours
The northern-most city in Alaska experiences sunlight all day long for about 3 months over the summer. The sun circles above the horizon during this time. You can imagine how much the vegetation likes that. However, during parts of the winter, the same city will experience endless darkness, which has an adverse effect on the vegetation and the overall mental health of the people living there. Many people experience depression during this time, which is somewhat understandable.

3. Alaska is a major oil producer
Many people don’t really know what Alaska is known for. A little research will show you that Alaska accounts for about 20% of the oil production in the United States. With the low population density, there is plenty of room to drill for oil, making it a very valuable state.
Read: 10 Common Relationship Mistakes We’ve All Made

4. Alaska has the lowest population density
Speaking of population, Alaska has the lowest population density of any state, and it’s really not even close. Other states may have a lower population, but the density in those states is still much greater. One statistic has shown that if New York had the same population density, then about 30 people would live in the city of Manhattan. That’s quite a bit difference from the over one million people that live there today!

5. Alaska has some of the highest peaks in the United States
Out of the twenty highest peaks in the United States, Alaska has seventeen of them. You may know that Mt. McKinley is the highest peak in Alaska, and the United States, but you may not have known about the other sixteen.
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6. There is a lot of water in and around Alaska
This fact is a no-brainer considering most of Alaska is surrounded by water. However, you may not have known that Alaska has about 3 million lakes and another 3,000 rivers, which gives it the most inland water of any other state. The largest lake is about the size of Connecticut.

7. Natural vegetation is safe in Alaska
Unlike every other state, Alaska doesn’t have any plants that are poisonous (like poison ivy). This is a good thing because Alaska also has the two largest forests in the United States. No need to worry about what you are touching when you go hiking in one of the Alaskan forests!
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8. Pilots reside in Alaska
This may be one of the most random facts about Alaska, but about one out of every fifty people that reside in Alaska are pilots. This is by far the highest number of pilots per capita of any other state. Many of those pilots own their own airplanes, so you may get lucky and bump into someone that can give you a flight if you visit there.

9. You can save money in Alaska
Alaska doesn’t collect sales tax or personal income tax. Items like liquor and tobacco have a sales tax in some areas, but most of the other items are tax-free. Of course, this makes Alaska the state with the lowest tax burden of any other state. If you can deal with the other elements in Alaska, it may be worth living here to save up some money.
Read: 8 Amazing Facts About Dreams

10. There aren’t many roads in Alaska
If you think you are going to go sightseeing in Alaska by driving everywhere, you may want to reconsider. Considering that only about 20% of Alaska can be traveled by road, you may want to find other ways to tour the state. There are only about a dozen highways that you can travel on.

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Just in Time for Halloween: Werewolf Cats

I am totally a self-professed “dog person”, which I have made clear a couple of times. In fact, I have pointed out that according to research: cats are jerks. Personally, I don’t really have anything against cats – they just aren’t for me, but there is a new breed of feline companion that I am actually really interested in.

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Say hello to the “Werewolf Cat”

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This special breed of cats, which was developed by veterinarian and cat enthusiast Johnny Gobble and his wife Brittney, are called Lykoi cats. Because of a special genetic mutation, the cats actually look like scruffy little wolves.

The breed was initially developed in 2010 when one of Gobbles’ colleagues, Patti Thomas, was presented with a liter of the unusual looking kittens. “Our founding cats come from two unrelated litters. The first litter was presented to Patti as a natural occurring Sphynx mutation. This confirmation was done with DNA testing for Devon/Sphynx gene which the kittens did not have.”

Lykoi is the greek word for wolf, which was fitting for the cats because of their lack of hair around their eyes, ears, and muzzles that makes them look “wolfish”. What is really interesting about the Lykoi cats is that they act like dogs. According to Gobbles, the cats are “aware of everything around them”, and “They can be clingy at times, but generally if you are too busy to snuggle, they will take ‘no’ as an answer and will go on and amuse themselves … as long as they are close enough to keep an eye on you.” Their personality has been described as being “like a hound dog”.
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Unfortunately, you cannot run out to your local pet store and grab yourself a “werewolf cat” just yet. In fact, there are only about 50 of them in the world between 7 registered breeders. To get a Lykoi cat, you’ll have to be ready to fork over about $2,000 dollars on average, even when they are available. If you’re really interested in getting one of these beautiful, rare, unique cats for yourself, check out Gobbles’ website for the next litter.

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10 Common Relationship Mistakes We’ve All Made

For those of us who really want to be in a relationship, we often times find how hard it can be for new relationships to grow and thrive. A relationship can be the best or worst part of your life depending on how you go about it. No one is perfect, but it seems there are some mistakes that have more dire consequences on your relationship than others. So, let’s talk about some of the most destructive mistakes that we often make in relationships, and how to avoid them.
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1) Getting Jealous:
If you find yourself getting jealous whenever you find your partner with someone else, you need to really evaluate the situation. Typically, jealousy is a result of a lack of trust. If you trust your partner, you have to learn to respect their privacy. Jealousy is a relationship killer, plain and simple.

2) Trying To Change Your Partner:
Love them for who they are, not for who you want them to be. When you try to change your partner, they feel you don’t really love them. It is easy for your partner to develop the feeling that you are just trying to make them into who you want, not who they are.

3) Depending on Your Partner For ALL of Your Needs:
Your partner is not there to meet all your needs. Some demands may be impossible to fulfill. That doesn’t mean, he/she doesn’t love you – it simply means that they can’t be everything to you all the time. Remember, your partner has a world outside the relationship.
Read: 4 Keys to Fixing a Broken Relationship

4) Domination is NOT Love:
Putting your partner down or making them feel inferior is not love. No one wants to feel like they are trapped in a relationship for a lack of options.

5) Never Get Addicted To Fighting:
Being addicted to fighting is a common relationship mistake. Fighting is never a solution, open up to your partner, settle the issues by speaking things out, instead of fighting.

6) Stop Taking Them For Granted:
You never really know how much effort a person has invested in doing things for you. A simple compliment can go a long way towards making your partner’s day. Never forget to tell your significant other, “thank you” or “I love you.”
Read: Breaking the Dating Cycle: How to Find the ONE

7) Looking for Perfection:
We are all imperfect in some way. So stop looking for the perfect partner and start looking for the imperfect one who will balance you out. Ditch the perfectionism, prince charming doesn’t exist in real life. You are not living in fairy tales, wake up and stop looking for perfections in your partner.

8) Let it Happen:
You can’t force someone to love you, so don’t go too fast. You have to ease into the relationship, so you avoid losing yourself in it. Let it happen, it will take some time, so be patient. If not, chances ar that you will end up with someone who is completely wrong for you.
Read: 4 Ways To Keep Insecurities From Ruining Your Relationship

9) Build Trust Don’t Break it:
Trust is the base for any relationship. If you someone to consider a future with you, respect them for who they are, trust them, and they will do the same. The biggest mistake that we can make in a relationship is breaking the trust. Once it’s broken, it is almost impossible to build again. What’s worse than breaking trust? Never trying to build trust.
Read: 20 Signs that you are Truly Loved

10) Respect Their Privacy:
Remember, your partner has a life outside the relationship. You have to realize that, respect their personal space, and give them their privacy. If he/she is in a bad mood or doesn’t feel like talking, leave them alone. Give them some time alone and you need to take some time for yourself too, if you spend every waking moment with your significant other, you will ultimately lose who you are as an individual. Take some time to do what you love and give them some time on their own.

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The Importance Of Loving Yourself

What is Love? Wikipedia says, “Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that range from interpersonal affection (“I love my mother”) to pleasure (“I loved that meal”). It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment.” The funny thing about loving other people, is that we need to love ourselves before we can love anyone else.

What is Self-Love?
Self-love is a combination of self-acceptance, self-possession, self-awareness, kindness, and respect for ourselves. Believe t or not, some people find that they are the hardest person to love in their lives. We know everything we have done, good or bad, so it makes sense that we would judge ourselves more harshly than anyone else will. But is it so hard to love ourselves? Not really. No one is going to love you if you don’t love yourself, so learning to love yourself is critical. Here are some tips to help you love yourself, and more importantly, to be more confident about yourself.

“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh

Simple Tips for Love Yourself:
* Forgive yourself (if you don’t nobody will).
*Stop criticizing yourself.
* Praise and appreciate yourself.
* Find ways to support yourself.
* Appreciate your body and tell yourself you are beautiful. You are more than just your appearance.
* Do something simple that makes you happy.
* Go after your dreams.
* Smile, it creates happiness.
* Celebrate your successes.
* Pamper yourself.
“In order to love yourself, you must behave in ways that you admire.” ~Irving Yalom.
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Overcome Negative Thoughts About Yourself:
Many people have trouble letting go of negative thoughts that they have about themselves. Focusing only on the negatives in your life is a bad habit we all tend to slip into. It is impossible to love yourself if all you have is negative thoughts about who you are and what you’ve done. Negative thoughts are inevitable at times, but we have to stop supporting those negative thoughts. They have a huge impact on your mindset.

Appreciate Yourself:
Appreciating yourself is a wonderful thing and is a practice we all should adopt. Start appreciating yourself for who you are and what you have. This allows you to realize your true worth. Once you realize your worth, you won’t settle for anything else. When you start to appreciate your talents, beauty, and brilliance you will be able to love your imperfectly perfect self.
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Find Positive Things About Yourself:
Try to find positive things about yourself and make a list of your positive attributes. When you feel down, take a look at the list of your positive attributes. You will realize that you deserve love and respect. Let those positive attributes run through your mind.

Be Confident About Yourself:
What other people think of you doesn’t matter, as long as you are confident about yourself.

Do Things That Make You Feel Good:
Start doing things that make you feel good both physically and emotionally. Do things that you wanted to do in your childhood. Read that book you’ve been meaning to read. Spend more time outside.
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Spend Some Time Alone:
Before you can be happy with someone else, you truly need to find happiness within yourself. One of the best things you can do to accomplish that is to spend some time alone, doing things you love. Take action and create a beautiful life for yourself. Trust in yourself, do good work, and you will see results. Spending time with your partner is not the only thing that brings happiness, you have to realize that you can be happy, by spending time alone too.

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What is Polyphasic Sleep and Why is it so Effective

If there is one thing I consider myself to really be good at, it would have to be my ability to nap. I can nap anywhere, anytime, and my naps really DO recharge my batteries better than you’d assume. I can go from being drop-dead tired to ready to take on a frost giant with nothing more that a 20-minute power nap in the front seat of my truck. Back when I used to work a 9-5 type job, catching cat naps in the middle of the day was tough. Now that I make my own hours, I find myself working in 4-hour bursts that are punctuated by 30-minute to an hour long naps throughout the day. Although at times it can seem like I am working non-stop, I still feel like I get more done in a day than I used to. As I grew more interested in my own sleep cycle, I found that people like Da Vinci had similar sleep cycles and that Polyphasic Sleep, as it is called, is actually very efficient.
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What is Polyphasic Sleep?
Now, we have all heard throughout our lives that we need to get 8 hours of sleep a night for our brains to properly recharge. This sleep pattern is what is known as monophasic. Polyphasic sleep, as the name suggests, is a sleep pattern that is broken up by more than one period of sleep. The theory is that by breaking up your sleep sessions, you actually save more hours in the day, while giving your brain regular breaks. This is an example of some sleep session patterns that are defined as polyphasic:

As you can see, there is a definite pattern of hours saved in a day. The problem lies in the fact that no everyone can adjust to the wake/sleep cycle of polyphasic sleeping. In fact, researchers like Piotr Woźniak have warned that sleep deprivation can be extremely unhealthy for you.

So Who Does Polyphasic Sleep Work For?
Polyphasic sleep has been studied for years and implemented by several organizations where people in high-stress situations need to manage their sleep. For instance, the US Military, Italian Air Force, ans even NASA have all experimented with subjecting pilots to long stretches of wakefulness punctuated by short naps, and found that your brain can get all of the rest your body requires in short bursts of sleep.
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One of the biggest proponents of polyphasic sleep has been Dr. Claudi Stampi. His original interest in alternative sleep patterns came from his love of long-distance solo sailing, which makes sense if you are piloting a boat by yourself around the world’s oceans. In one of Stampi’s experiments, a man only slept for 3 hours at a time for 49 days. The findings showed that he managed to achieve all of the aspects of restful sleep, despite the shortened sleep periods. Stampi went on to write a book called Why We Nap: Evolution, Chronobiology, and Functions of Polyphasic and Ultrashort Sleep in 1992 that detailed his findings.
Read: 3 Easy Steps to Fall Asleep Faster, and Sleep Better

So, based on that research, it is easy to understand why polyphasic sleep worked for people like Napolean, Da Vinci, and even Tesla. Still, doctors warn of having a circadian rhythm that is out of whack. Another problem that you can run into with a polyphasic sleep cycle is the fact that not everyone maintains the same level of wakefulness. Take for instance the story of Buckminster Fuller, who adopted a schedule of sleeping for 30 minutes every 6 hours. Although he was highly productive for the two years he maintained his sleep schedule, “he had to quit because his schedule conflicted with that of his business associates, who insisted on sleeping like other men.” I think that polyphasic sleep has its uses for some people, and it it works for you – more power to you. Sleeping is a key element to maintaining good health, so make sure that whether you sleep once a day or 6 times a day that you are getting enough rest. That is first and foremost.
Research Sources:
NASA, PBS.org

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‘Telepathy Is Possible’ Says Most Complex Brain-To-Brain Study Ever Conducted

Recently, the University of Washington conducted research on brain-to-brain connections. What they found shows us that humans are capable of transmitting information to each other via our brains, and just our brains.

Participants in this study played a question-and-answer game over the internet in which signals were transmitted from one brain to the other. This study is the first to show that two brains can be directly connected to enable someone to guess what is on another person’s mind.

“This is the most complex brain-to-brain experiment, I think, that’s been done to date in humans,” said lead author Andrea Stocco, an assistant professor of psychology and a researcher at UW’s Institute for Learning & Brain Sciences.
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“It uses conscious experiences through signals that are experienced visually, and it requires two people to collaborate,” Stocco said.

 

UW Today explains how the experiment works:

“The first participant, or “respondent,” wears a cap connected to an electroencephalography (EEG) machine that records electrical brain activity. The respondent is shown an object (for example, a dog) on a computer screen, and the second participant, or “inquirer,” sees a list of possible objects and associated questions. With the click of a mouse, the inquirer sends a question and the respondent answers “yes” or “no” by focusing on one of two flashing LED lights attached to the monitor, which flash at different frequencies.

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A “no” or “yes” answer both send a signal to the inquirer via the Internet and activate a magnetic coil positioned behind the inquirer’s head. But only a “yes” answer generates a response intense enough to stimulate the visual cortex and cause the inquirer to see a flash of light known as a “phosphene.” The phosphene — which might look like a blob, waves or a thin line — is created through a brief disruption in the visual field and tells the inquirer the answer is yes. Through answers to these simple yes or no questions, the inquirer identifies the correct item.”

72% of the time, participants guessed the correct object.

“They have to interpret something they’re seeing with their brains,” said co-author Chantel Prat, a faculty member at the Institute for Learning & Brain Sciences and a UW associate professor of psychology. “It’s not something they’ve ever seen before.”

Caitlin Hudac wearing a cap which uses transcranial magnetic stimulation (TMG) to deliver brain signals from the other participant. –Univeristy of Washington

Andrea Stocco and Chantel Prat received a $1 million grant from the W.M. Keck Foundation. This gave them the opportunity to broaden their studies on decoding even more complex brain interactions. Currently, they are exploring the possibility of “brain tutoring.” In essence, brain tutoring is simply transferring knowledge from a teacher to a pupil. This could also be used to transfer signals from a healthy brain to ones that are developmentally impaired, or ones that have been affected by strokes or accidents.

Another aspect of their experiments is brain-state transmissions. What this means is sending signals from an alert subject, to a sleepy one, or from a focused pupil to one who suffers from A.D.H.D.

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“Imagine having someone with ADHD and a neurotypical student,” Prat said. “When the non-ADHD student is paying attention, the ADHD student’s brain gets put into a state of greater attention automatically.”

Both Stocco and Prat are excited to discover what possibilities lie uncovered in the human brain.

“Evolution has spent a colossal amount of time to find ways for us and other animals to take information out of our brains and communicate it to other animals in the forms of behavior, speech and so on,” Stocco said. “But it requires a translation. We can only communicate part of whatever our brain processes.

“What we are doing is kind of reversing the process a step at a time by opening up this box and taking signals from the brain and with minimal translation, putting them back in another person’s brain,” he said.

What do you think about these brain studies? Do you think scientific telepathy will benefit us?

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20 Signs that you are Truly Loved

There’s no guaranteed way to know if a person truly loves you. That being said, there are definitely some telltale signs that your significant other really does care about you. The key is to pay attention to how your partner ACTS and focus less on what they say. Here are some signs to look for that show that your significant other truly loves you.

1) No matter how great your day might be going, your special person will find a way to make it better.

2) Your partner loves you truly when he/she talks about the future including you in it. True commitment means seeing a forever with another person.

3) A key indicator of successful long-term intimacy is investing time in the relationship. A true partner would always be willing to spend time with you, no matter what is going on in their lives.

4) If your partner is kind, considerate, and respectful, he/she loves you truly, a relationship cannot flourish without mutual respect.

5) They won’t hide their true self, they would act the same way around you as they do around their friends.

6) Love requires giving to someone with no thought of how it might be repaid. If your partner loves you truly, he/she will strongly believe that love can never be repaid.

7) They won’t judge your mistakes, they won’t hide it from you too, they will reveal it to you in a calm and peaceful way. They will be comfortable with telling you when you’ve made a mistake.

8) Actions speak louder than words, observe if your partner stands according to his/her words, observe if they keep their promises, if they do, they are in love with you for sure.

9) Does your partner ask about your day? If they seem to show interest in your life, it’s because they care for you.

10) If your partner gives you compliments that show that he/she really appreciates the important aspects of your character and personality, then there’s a good chance he/she really loves you.

11) If someone really loves you, they won’t try to change you, they will accept you for who you are.

12) If your loved one really loves you, then they’ll really open up to you, they would never try to hide anything, including how they feel for you.

13) You can tell for sure that your partner loves you, when he/she trusts you, people will trust someone only if they care for them truly. Can you trust him with your life?

14) They will respect when your opinion, even if they hate it. They would listen to whatever you have to say. If the person truly loves you, then he’ll care about what you think.

15) They would be committed to the relationship and they will never give up on you. Love itself is rooted in commitment.

16) Part of being in love is just being able to listen. It’s not all about being able to talk. If your partner listens to anything and everything you say without arguing or interrupting, you can be sure that they are in love with you.

17) A partner who truly cares for you will make you feel good about yourself by boosting your self-esteem. They would help in increasing your self-confidence, if you find yourself with someone who makes you feel good, you better be sure that he/she is the one.

18) They will be always there for you, a person who loves you truly will always be there for you through the good times and the bad, through thick and thin.

19) Part of being in love is always wanting to be around the person you love, it might be hard and impossible at times, but if they love you truly they will put some tiresome efforts to make it happen.

20) If the love is true and honest, they will respect your privacy and will not demand you to spend more time with you. They would know when to give you space, if your partner wants to be around you all the time, then that’s not love, it’s infatuation. Mature love is in respecting the other person’s time and space.

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6 Ways To Build Trust In A Long-Distance Relationship

Long-distance relationships take patience, communication, endurance, commitment, and above all, trust. Trust is absolutely VITAL in a long distance relationship. It doesn’t matter how far your partner is from you; they might be in a different time zone or just a couple of hours away from you. What matters is how much you trust them. If you do not have trust, then you may as well not have a long-distance relationship. Long-distance relationships are not easy, so here are some tips on building the trust that make them a little easier:

1) Avoid Secrets:
Don’t hide anything from your partner. Keeping secrets will only make you doubt each other. Honest and open communication is important in a long-distance relationship. Don’t hide important information, since this could really damage the trust that your partner has for you. There is nothing worse than a lie in any relationship, especially one that has a distance factor.

2) Communicate Openly and Often:
It’s hard to make a relationship a successful one if there’s no healthy communication. A long-distance relationship will never work if you don’t talk to your partner often. Regular communication is important to sustain a long-distance relationship. Keep in mind: communication is the key to ANY happy and fulfilling relationship, and trust starts with communicating openly. Talk about whether you feel happy in the relationship and how to make it better. Long-distance relationships are a lot of work and regular check-ins will help to increase the mutual understanding and trust.

3) Plan Your Next Visit:
One of the hardest aspects of a long-distance relationship is the fact that you can’t see each other often. Making the effort to see each other regularly will give you both something to look forward to.

4) Give Them Some Space:
Always recognize that he/she needs time and space to live their own life. Don’t force them to spend more time with you than what they can afford. It’s not that easy, especially when all you can think about is your partner. Trust is a two-way street so if you want them to trust you, you have to trust them with some time alone. Do not be over-possessive and never make them feel so by demanding them to spend more time with you.

5) Keep Your Promises:
It’s very important to keep your word in a long-distance relationship. If you promise them something, make sure you get it done. If not, then don’t make promises. Encourage your partner to trust you by always proving yourself worthy of their trust. The surest and quickest way to lose someone’s trust is by breaking promises.

6) Trust Yourself:
It is especially difficult in a long-distance relationship to remember that you are your own person. The first thing you have to do is trust yourself. How can they trust you when you always worry about your choices, you’re weak, and you have a low self-esteem? If you don’t trust your decisions and your choices, they won’t trust you either.

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The 4 Stages of Life According to Carl Jung

As we wander through this journey that is life, we go through fundamental changes. Some people use terms like “quarter-life crisis” or “middle age” to define where it is we think we are in our lives along the way. To me, there aren’t destinations in life. There are milestones for sure, but we can often come back to the same places that we were before. That is what I love about Swiss psychologist Carl Jung’s 4 Stages of Life. As he described them, these stages have to do with who we are as people and our motivations. They have nothing to do with age or accomplishment, and throughout our lives we often move forward and backward from these stages. As Jung once said, “Thoroughly unprepared, we take the step into the afternoon of life. Worse still, we take this step with the false presupposition that our truths and our ideals will serve us as hitherto. But we cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life’s morning, for what was great in the morning will be little at evening and what in the morning was true, at evening will have become a lie.” These are the 4 stages of life, according to Carl Jung:
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The Athlete

The athlete is the phase in our lives when we are at our most self-absorbed. There are people in our lives that have never made it out of this phase, or often revert back to it. Of the 4 stages, it tends to be the least mature. It is characterized by being obsessed with our physical bodies and appearance. For an example of the athlete phase, watch teenagers walk past a mirror. The athlete phase can be narcissistic, critical, or even both.

The Warrior

Moving forward in our lives, we reach the warrior phase. This is where we begin to take on responsibilities and get the desire to conquer the world. Well, maybe not the world for some of us, but this is when we become more goal oriented. All of the sudden we can see objectives that we want to accomplish and the vanity of the athlete phase begins to fade. The warrior phase is really characterized by the struggles in our lives that early adulthood can throw at us. The warrior phase is also the most common pshase that people revert back to throughout their lives as they “re-invent” themselves.

The Statement

When the warrior phase in our lives is coming to an end, we find ourselves asking: “what have I done for others?” Your focuses shift from your personal achievements to accomplishing goals based on forwarding other people’s lives. This stage is often correlated to parenting, because your focus becomes providing a better life for your children, and what it is you need to do that. The statement phase for many people is much more than a correlation to parenting, and more about leaving a legacy or a footprint in life. The statement phase is a time to reflect on what you have accomplished, and how you can continue moving forward – not just for you, but for the other people in your life. As far as maturity goes, the statement phase is a huge step forward from even the warrior phase.
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The Spirit

The final stage of life is the spirit stage. In this stage, we realize that we are more than what we have accumulated – be it money, friends, possessions, good deeds, or milestones in life. We are spiritual beings. We realize that we are divine beings in a journey of life that has no real beginning and no end. The spirit phase is characterized by a sense of “getting out of your own mind” and focusing on what is waiting for us beyond our physical beings. The philosopher Lao Tzu proposed a question over 2500 years ago that perfectly describes the spirit phase: ““Can you step back from your own mind and thus understand all things? Giving birth and nourishing, having without possessing, acting with no expectations, leading and not trying to control: this is the supreme virtue.”

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12 Interesting Facts About Google

Google has become so much more than just a search engine. Google is probably as close to a modern empire as you can get, alongside companies like Microsoft and Apple. As often as you have used Google, I bet you didn’t know at least one of the 12 interesting facts:

1) The First Google Doodle:

Yes, this is Google’s first homepage doodle. Designed by the original Google guys and added to the homepage, it was to let their users know they were out of office and couldn’t fix technical issues like a server crash.

2) First Tweet By Google:

“I’m feeling lucky” written in binary code was Google’s first tweet.

3) Google Rents Goats:

Google is conserving energy and reducing the pollution by cutting lawns with the help of cute goats instead of using noisy lawn mowers. Google HQ rents goats from California Grazing to mow their lawns and fields.

4) 200 factors:
Google takes over 200 factors into account before delivering you the best results to any query in a fraction of a second.

5)Google Helps:
Go to Google homepage and type the words “I want to commit suicide”. Above all the search results, Google provides the Suicide Helpline number of your country.

6) Google Images Game:
Search “atari breakout” in Google Images and you can play the game. Try it now.
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7) Google Employee:
When a Google employee dies, their spouse receives half pay from the company for 10 years and their children US$1,000 per month until they turn 19. Every one of Google’s employees is immediately eligible regardless of how long they’ve worked there.

8) “Did you mean…” feature:
One of the biggest leaps in search usage came about when they introduced their much-improved spell checker, giving birth to the “Did you mean…” feature. This instantly doubled their traffic, but they had some interesting discussions on how best to place that information, as most people simply tuned that out.

9) Googol:
The name ‘Google’ was an accident. A spelling mistake made by the original founders who thought they were going for ‘Googol’.
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10) Google hired a camel:
Google hired a camel to create the Street View of a desert.

11) First Snack:
Known for providing gourmet food and snacks to employees, the first Google snack in 1999 was Swedish Fish, a chewy candy.

12) Askew:
If you search for “askew” in Google, the content will tilt slightly to the right.

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4 Ways To Keep Insecurities From Ruining Your Relationship

So, let’s say you have just met the guy or girl of your dreams, yet you are still not able to decide if they are the one… What could possibly be the problem? More often than not, it boils down to insecurities. Everyone has them. Insecurities can be the death of any relationship because they often create problems out of nowhere. It happens with many relationships. If someone in your past has treated you poorly, lied, or even cheated – feeling insecure is a natural and reasonable response. Feeling emotionally vulnerable is quite common when we first enter an intimate relationship. That is why it is so important to prevent your insecurities from ruining your relationship.
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1) Control Your Jealousy:
You will have a hard time trusting your partner if you are jealous of every other person in their life. Whether it is their ex or even just a friend they spend a lot of time with, the root of your jealousy is usually because of your past history of being betrayed. Jealous people are tyrannical, controlling, domineering, and completely insensitive to the impact of their actions on their partner. Respect your partner and respect their freedom if you wish to be in a healthy relationship. They have a world outside your relationship – that doesn’t mean they are cheating on you. Once you learn to control your jealousy () you can overcome the biggest insecurities in your relationship. In order to achieve this, you have to respect your partner enough to be honest and upfront with your partner. If you don’t hide anything from your partner, they won’t hide anything from you.

2) Stop Predicting:
Stop trying to read minds. Stop trying to guess and predict everything that is going to happen. If your partner doesn’t feel like going out because he/she has had a rough day at work, don’t assume it is because of you. Don’t assume that they are no longer interested in you. Too often we are so sold on our own insecurities, that we don’t even think twice about the real cause of a situation. If someone says one thing, don’t assume they mean something else. If they say nothing at all, don’t assume their silence has some hidden, negative connotation. Stop trying to reading their minds and respect their right to privacy. This is where communication becomes critical. Ask questions, instead of making assumptions.
Read: 4 Keys to Fixing a Broken Relationship

3)No Relationship is Perfect:
Perfect relationships exist only in fairy tales, so stop looking for them and start appreciating the imperfect nature of your partner. If you don’t, you will end up spending your life searching for the perfect person – who doesn’t exist. We are all imperfect in some way, so stop looking for the perfect partner and start looking for the one who will balance you out.
Read: 8 Signs You’re With Someone Who Respects You

4) Don’t Let Your Past Ruin Your Present:
One of the most popular insecurity is judging current relationships based on past ones. Stop comparing your current relationships to all of your past ones. Have faith in your partner. Constantly comparing your current relationships to past ones will start to affect the relationship in the most negative ways. If you carry old bricks from the failed relationships of your past to your present relationships, you will build the same flawed structures that fell apart before. They are called the past, because they are behind you. Stop assuming that the future has to be like the past.

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Breaking the Dating Cycle: How to Find the ONE

Having a true romantic and spiritual relationship that is fueled with love is one of the many wonders of this modern day world.

If you are anything like me, you were raised in a broken family with little to no example of what real love looks like. Your parents or caregivers busted their butts to keep the house maintained and to live securely with food on the table. One parent or both parents were away from home most the time and too exhausted for much else when the family was together. There wasn’t much time for love or even knowledge of connecting to love and eventually you become witness to a dying marriage.
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Because of this, online relationship experts are in high demand these days. Marriage has upgraded from 2 people of the opposite sex needing each other to run a home, carry on the family name with children and to provide for them financially, to being married for love alone. Now, men can take care of their own homes with modern appliances, cook their own food with easy make meals and it is socially acceptable to have female friends or date to fill those needs of feminine energy. Women can be successful in the business world and take care of their own financial and security needs while also maintaining relationships, platonic or romantic, to fill their needs of masculine energy. There is no need to get hitched or tie the knot, unless it is for loving commitment.

So, what is the problem?
Most people really do want to find that one person, who really loves them and “gets” them, but men do not understand women and women do not understand men.
We look to experts to teach us how to have the relationship we want – to find the man or woman of their dreams!

When a current relationship isn’t going the way we want, we look for advice and insights from coaches who can help us get what we want. If we don’t get it, we jump on another dating site and find someone else to repeat the cycle.

How do you end the cycle? Maybe this video from Bryan Reeves will shine some light on your struggle.
Read: 4 Keys to Fixing a Broken Relationship

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This Abstract Image Test Will Reveal Your True Self

Stunning Drone Footage of the Fukushima Wasteland

Back in 2011, one of the worst nuclear disasters the planet has ever seen took place at the Fukushima Daiichi reactors on the coast of Japan. Initially, there was a ton of media coverage, but now you hardly ever hear anything about it. That is a problem because 4 years later the damn thing is still leaking radioactive material into the ocean.
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Thanks to photographer and filmmaker Arkadiusz Podniesiński, we can now get a detailed look at the absolute wasteland that is the Fukushima disaster site. Podniesiński has been filming and photographing the disaster site at Chernobyl for years, so he has experience in documenting nuclear disasters. On his web page, Podniesiński says:

“This photographic documentary is not intended to tell the story of the events surrounding the disaster yet again. Like the incident that occurred on 26 April 1986, most readers know the story well. It is worth mentioning one very important aspect, however, which is an essential issue as we consider the story further. It is not earthquakes or tsunami that are to blame for the disaster at the Fukushima Daiichi nuclear power station, but humans. The report produced by the Japanese parliamentary committee investigating the disaster leaves no doubt about this. The disaster could have been foreseen and prevented. As in the Chernobyl case, it was a human, not technology, that was mainly responsible for the disaster.”

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The following drone footage was shot by Podniesiński and is simply stunning. These are the kinds of images that people need to be seeing coming out of Japan, not what the government officials are saying.

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Researchers Conclude: Cats Are Jerks!!!

Typically there are either cat people or dog people. Dogs are known for their unconditional love, but let’s face it: your cat doesn’t care if you live or die, as long as they get fed. Terrifying side note: sometimes that’s the same thing. Now before you write me off as a cat-hater, I’d like to point out that science has proven that your cat is basically just an asshole.

1: Your Cat Doesn’t Love You Back
In research done by the University of Lincoln in the U.K., it was determined that cats simply don’t love their owners back in the same way that dogs do. The theory is based on the evolutionary path that dogs and cats took in conjunction with human evolution. Man’s domestication of dogs dates back as far as 32,000 years ago. Cats have only been tolerating human presence for about 9,000 years, and that is simply because they were scavengers. They fed on the waste humans left behind, and the vermin they attracted.

To take that principle even further, consider that humans bred dogs selectively to cultivate certain good traits. Humans chose dogs for a purpose, whether it was herding and protecting livestock, hunting, or protection from other predators. Cats chose to hang around people as an easy source of food. Not quite the same bonding experience.
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2: Your Cat Poops on the Floor Because it Thinks You are a Loser
Cat people always rave about the cleanliness of cats. Case in point: try to train a puppy to use a litter box. You might as well be training the puppy to do your taxes. The reason cats bury their poop is because it is an instinctual left-over from their pre-domesticated days when the tactic of burying poop was a way to avoid conflict with alpha felines in their area. So, if you cat poops on the floor, it’s to show you that they are the boss and that you can’t do anything about it. If you think I’m kidding, next time your cat poops on the floor, and you are cleaning it up, see if your cat doesn’t watch you do it with a smug look on its face.

3: Your Cat Doesn’t Care if you Stay or Go
Professor Daniel Mills of Lincoln University staged a modified version of the “Strange Situation” experiment that Mary Ainsworth used to prove the existence of a bond between children and their parents. Basically in that experiment strangers and parents entered a room intermittently with the child, and the child’s response was recorded. Now, I point out that specific detail, because when Mills did the test with dogs, the result was almost identical to that of children. When the experiment was done with cats, cats tended to ignore their owners entirely, and sometimes were more likely to approach strangers.

4: Your Cat has Ulterior Motives Behind Those “Displays of Affection”
When your cat is purring and rubbing on your legs, you probably assume that your furry friend is happy to see you and is showing its love. Nope. It’s showing you that it owns you. Cats are crazy about marking their territory, and use pheromone-laden scent glands to tell other cats everything from sexual availability (theirs, not yours), and most importantly: ownership. Where are those scent glands located? The face, side of the body, and tail. All your furry feline companion is doing is alerting other cats that you are the sole property of your feline companion.

Even the purring can be sinister. In 2009, researchers from the university of Sussex found that cat’s purring can be a form of manipulation. Basically, cats have figured out how to purr in a way that triggers human’s parenting instincts, and inevitably gets them food.
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5: Your Cat Thinks You’re too Stupid to Feed Yourself.
Cats are basically little furry murderers. They kill an estimated 3.7 billion songbirds each year alone, not to mention mice, rabbits, etc. The next time you open your door to let fluffy in from a night in the wilderness, and there is a dead creature of some kind on your doorstep -it’s not a sign of affection. It’s a sign that he/she thinks you are too weak, stupid, or inexperienced to gather your own food. They teach their kittens how to hunt in exactly the same way. Basically, they want you to join their “bird-murder-palooza”, but they don’t think you can handle it.

Now, as I said before: this article is based in science, and if you look, I’ve included links to the research. This is to keep all the crazy cat people from going nuts. Either way, I think we can all still enjoy cat videos on the internet.

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4 Keys to Fixing a Broken Relationship

When your relationship is bending and breaking, it can feel like it is going to collapse at any time. All relationships require work, love, patience,e and effort from both people to succeed – especially when trying to mend a broken relationship. Not all relationships have to end badly, though. When it feels like you relationship is splitting at the seams, here are some things to keep in mind to pull things back together:

Remember Why You Fell In Love:
Before letting go, ask yourself: “why did you fall in love with them in the first place?”. Remind yourself of the person you first fell in love with. Remind yourself of the memories you’ve built together. Can you honestly just walk away from those? Try to take a step back from your daily life and think about what you enjoy about your partner. This helps you to set aside your ego and will help you to remember why you are in love. You can go to the place where you met them or read the love letters you wrote to them. Most importantly, give yourself a chance to remember the happy memories you had with them.
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Focus on Communication:
At the core of many relationship problems lies a fundamental failure to communicate. When your relationship is on the rocks, more than ever, it’s time to communicate. It’s funny how many issues can be resolved with the right kind of communication. Developing the patience to listen to your partner, even if you can’t agree with them, is crucial to the process. Hear them out. Don’t end your relationships due to simple misunderstandings. Many times, relationships end or hit rough spots when there is not MUTUAL communication going on between the two parties. Take some time to talk with your partner about what is bothering in your relationship, and more importantly, how it could be resolved. If you’re not talking about what’s bothering you, it’s impossible to fix it.

Start Forgiving:
Fights are common in a relationship, especially when you are in a troubled relationship. It’s time to stop fighting and to start forgiving. With effective communication, you can get to the root of hurtful actions and resolve them. I know, sometimes it is hard to forgive them for hurting you, but forgiving each other is the crucial part of mending a relationship. Again, putting your ego aside is important if you want to hold on to the relationship. Remember, no one is perfect. Without forgiveness, there wouldn’t be a single working relationship – ever.

Give Them Some Space:
You can’t hold a leash over the other person, just because you are with them. If you are serious about mending your relationship, give each other space and time to heal. Respect their privacy and trust them. If you are really serious about fixing the relationship, stop being clingy. Do you know the advantage of spending some time alone from each other? It makes the two of you realize just how important you are to each other and how much you miss the other person’s company and conversation.
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More Things to Keep in Mind:
* It takes two people to mend a broken relationship. If you are the only one trying to save things then you will never succeed. So make sure if the other person wants to fix the relationship, if they are not interested, it’s time for you to move on.

* Stop arguing and start listening to what your partner has to say. It will help you to figure out what is going wrong in your relationship.

* Whatever you do, don’t try to make him or her jealous, it’s like adding fuel to the flames.

* Be positive in all aspects of your life including what you say, how you act, what you do and how you think to fix the broken relationship.

* Think about the good qualities he/she has that originally attracted you to them.

* When your partner says something, make an effort to listen to them without arguing.

* Sexual problems will eventually affect most relationships, so practice intimacy.

* Always remember to express gratitude by thanking them when you’re feeling loved.

* Get clear on what you both desire from the relationship.

* Never get caught up in your own emotions, try to see the world from your partner’s eyes.

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According to Science, It’s Time to Stop Masturbating So Much

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